Dealing with Stalkers

Things you can do to deal with stalkers:
  • Make your feelings known early (e.g. "You have called my house 15 times this week and you followed me home last night. I am uncomfortable with this attention.") If you were in a relationship, you can also add (e.g. "I don't want to continue with our relationship.") Most importantly be very direct and state to the stalker (e.g. "Please stop contacting me.")
  • Be consistent and firm with your message.
  • Tell a friend, family member or if you are a student, let a faculty member know what is happening.
  • Get Caller ID on your phone(s). Get unlisted phone numbers, change your email address, get a temporary P.O. Box.
  • Contact the Police. It is helpful to have records of emails, phone messages or other evidence of the stalking. Keep a detailed written log of these communications and contacts.
  • You may want to get a restraining order to require the offender to stay away from you. The offender could be punished with a fine or jail time.